Me and my wife have been married for eight years. We have four beautiful children, including a set of twin girls. We both grew up in the church and most of our problems evolved out of the church. We don't communicate that well to each other. We are argue and fight constantly about everything. My wife blamed me about a lot of thigs going wrong in our marriage and also for where we are in our life. I have accepted responsibility for most of problems but I can not take the blame for everything. It takes two and we all make mistakes.

Heavenly Father, keep close watch over this man and this woman. Help them communicate better with each other and with You. Show them both the way and life You have chosen for them. Please watch over their 4 children also Lord. Help their entire family not to loose faith and keep them from getting discouraged. In Your Name, Amen.

Johnson- stay close to Jesus, keep an open mind with your wife ( I'll pray she does the same ) and try not to argue in front of your children! Communication with God is your first priority! I'm sorry you are going through this. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Hello Mr. Johnson,

We have all been to weddings where everyone present was all bubbly, in love, and joyous. Is it any wonder the enemy would attack us in the very foundation of happiness that forms the basis for our lives. Often, we think of marriage problems as problems of the flesh. "She did that or he treated me this way... or You never do this or buy me that..." Whatever. You name it and the satan of the universe has thought of it to act as a wedge to divide and conquer those whom only a short time ago loved each other and gushed as they said their vows.

While marriage problems act out in the flesh, they have their roots in the spirit, evil that is. satan (I won't capitalize his name) wants nothing better than to destroy your life, the lives of your children, and your wife. You must want to defeat your enemy, the enemy of us all, with all your might, body and soul. satan hates you and your family as we see in the following:

1 Peter 5:8:

8Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:

Ephesians 6:12

12For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

So the battle lines are drawn. Trouble is, so many of us try to fight the battle with the flesh...words, coniving arguments to win the debate rather than win the battle over our real enemy, emotional pleadings and such.

It is well that we say we are sorry and "fall on the sword" to those we have hurt and disappointed, but this is not enough, as the enemy will keep coming until his victory is assured or until his spirit is bound up and cast out. I have some suggestions as well as my offering of prayer for your family and you:

1. I recommend you begin for a period of intense spiritual warfare to take back your family. Take some time to fast, pray and become strong in His might. This is the battle for all you hold dear and your enemy knows this.

2. Annoint the house where your wife and children live with oil. It is well that you do this with an elder from your church or someone you trust that is strong spiritually. Do it alone if you must though. Tell your wife what you are doing and it might be best that your family was not present so that your prayer and focus are not distracted. If you have never annointed a house, you can simply say something like this: "Oh lord my God, I annoint this room with oil and I dedicate it to you. I ask for the covering of the precious blood of the Lord Jesus Christ on everything in this room." Then say to the devil himself "I command every foul demonic spirit to get out of this room now in the mighty name of the Lord Jesus Christ and never come back. This room belongs to the Lord Jesus Christ" Then go outside and do the same to each of the four corners of the house.

Do this same thing with your own present house or apartment.

3. With the evil spirits removed from your homes, you can begin the road of rebuilding your marriage. Date your wife. Whatever trust or honor has been broken must be rebuilt. Remember those most commonly quoted spriptures from Ephesians for men on how to treat their wives:

Ephesians 5:25-33

25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

4. I don't often recommend books, except the Bible, but I will recommend this one as it describes what the author calls the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse in a marriage. These horsemen are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. The book is meant to be read with your wife and includes various interactive exercises. The book is: Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John Gottman, Ph.D.

5. Don't forget your children. Be honest with them, what your are doing to be their father and the husband to their mother. Kids are remarkably resiliant and hopeful their family will be one again.

6. Don't lose faith. Remember, your battle is a spiritual one so be stong in the Lord.

Our prayers are with you.

Nick P.

I want to thank each of you for your quick response to my prayer. I am going to take all of your advice into consideration and I hope things will work out. Not to sound doubtful but at the present time I am in-need of a miracle! God bless you all. Thanks again.

Mr. Johnson, I left you a private message.