please pray for me i've just broken up with someone i really love. We are both christians and i hoped we would get married but things did not work out. My boyfriend just came up saying it was wrong to kiss and we should get some space. that then marked the end of the relationship. I feel so sad deppressed and inadequate and i feel he is not telling me the whole truth.

Kamelaandrea
I am praying God will heal your broken heart and guide you in the right ways. Perhaps this is not God's best choice for you to marry. Trust in God with your whole heart, lean not unto your own understanding and acknowledge him in all your ways and he will direct your paths. That is in the word. May God give you hope and wisdom.

Dear Kamelaandera,

Do not despair about what you don't know for certain. Your claim that he is not totally honest may be true but there are also alternative explanations, e.g.:

1- Fear of falling into fornication.
2- Problems expressing sentiments physically.
3- Need for self-assurance before deepening his commitment to you.
4- Time to free himself from a previous relationship.

And the list can be extended on and on with as many reasons as our imagination allows.
What I mean is: Christians forfeit the choice of their own understanding of things because we know God. We surrender the control of our lives to Him at the time we are baptised and trust that every experience we go through has been commanded from above, ordained since the beginning of time, set to teach us something about God, and perfectly suitable to meet our needs. We don't need to know everything because we have faith in a loving Father who is always aware of our requirements and ready to fulfill them.

If your boyfriend is the man God has chosen to be your husband, rest assured that you are going to marry him when the time is right. If not, he will walk out of your life for good.

The physical expression of love is only one aspect of a relationship. For it to work many other aspects should also be taken care of. Grant your boyfriend the space and time he is asking for and enjoy the possibility of knowing each other in other areas of your personalities, personal experiences, goals, emotions, etc.

The Bible is so full of teachings on trusting God, waiting patiently in Him, praying for particular situations, etc, that I will not recommend you any particular scripture. Instead, I'm praying...

"Dear Lord,
Help our sister Kamela find her place of comfort, patience, faith, security and confidence in You. You are her true and faithful Bridegroom who brings everlasting love and joy. There is no confusion in You and You never forsake us. You are our real source of life and happiness now and for all eternity. Lead our sister to a successful and loving marriage with the person of Your choosing. Let Your will be done and not our own desires. Open up our hearts and minds to the dwelling of Your Spirit so we can live by faith in peace, not wanting and lacking but whole and fruitful."

Love, Jorge S.