Hi there,

I sure could your prayers, guidence, and any advise you all may have. I'm a single mother of an adorable little one year old baby girl. The baby's father and I are not married and never were because he's very abusive and in all accounts, not a very nice person at all. I feel like I've sentenced myself to the next 18 years of hell for my sins of having a baby out of wedlock and any and all other sins I have commited throughout my life time. I love my baby more than anything,and it's important for her father and I to communicate effectively, but dealing with him is like being emotionally hijacked everytime we have to come in contact with one another. I've prayed for peace. I've asked myself WWJD? I've tried "Killing him with kindness". I've tried to " Rise above it all", and just when I think I've conquered his attempts at manipulation, he manages to get in one last mean verbal or physical blow I find myself highly anxiety ridden and extremely frustrated. I know it's wrong, but I have wished and prayed for him to exit mine and my baby's life somehow, someway wheather it be he moves away or whatever. I hope I can qualify for some wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of why it all has to be this way. There's a reason why God gave us such a perfect baby girl. I'm pretty sure it was'nt to bring the two of us together, so I find myself at a complete loss. Please help?

Tracy,
Let me say, that you are not alone. There are many times in our lives we will ask the questions of why this? Why that? Why me? The greatest answer is God. To trust him. To know him. To seek him. To know that he supplies all your needs. The battle that you are facing is not yours.

.....Be not afraid nor dismayed by reason of this great multitude; for the battle is not yours, but God's. (2 Chronicles 20:15)

In the time of trouble, people normally run from God. But run to him! Seek him. God has forgiven you for your sins. Now, you have to forgive yourself. Once you forgive yourself and seek him, you will see God will open doors. It will be difficult but allow him to do for you because it will be done. The book of Psalms is a great book read. Through my trials, healing, tribulations and situations, I am reminded by my GDW family that The Lord is my rock, strength, Shepard and he will never give me too much to handle. This goes for you as well!

Father God,
Tracy is calling you Lord. Please give her a ear to listen. Please bring forth peace in her heart, mind, spirit, and her situation with her child's father. Physical nor verbal abuse or manipulation is not of you, Jesus, I ask that you remove everything from her life that is not of you, Lord. I thank you for your mercy, grace and comfort. We know that the battle is yours and that from this day forth, Tracy puts her trust in you.

Lord, you are a wonderful parent. We thank you for what you are doing. We also ask that you bring forth a peace and humbleness within the child's father. We ask that your precious baby girl is not effected by the harmful relations between her parents. We ask Lord that no hand, no violence comes against any of your children and remove that spirit from Tracy's life. We thank you for your daughter, Tracy. This too shall pass. We know Lord that you will use Tracy to be a vessel to others that will or have been through this situation. In Jesus name. AMEN!

Stay encourage. My prayers are with you.
Nicole (NB)

Dear Tracy,

Thank you for writing, Tracy, so that we who read your words can pray for you and your baby girl, and her father too.

Firstly, I want to congratulate you for giving birth to your baby girl. As you must be aware, our society actively contributes to the termination of lives of untold millions of babies every year that are born in circumstances like yours. Your courage and strength are to be admired.

In the Book of Psalms, God tells us that children are a gift and a reward to us:

Psalm 127
3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

As a gift and a reward from God, your baby is and never will be part of an act of punishment from God for your sins. Where ever you are seated now, Tracy, look around at the other people near you. They may be in a same room, out your window, or simply in a photo. Can you name one person who has not sinned at least a gazillion times in their lives? The act of sex with the father of your baby is indeed sinful, but such as it is, that sin as well as those of the rest of us are washed by the blood of Christ. Jesus Christ died so that our sins would be forgiven, Tracy. He died for you, for me, for your baby. Leave your sin at the cross of Jesus, and mention it no more. It is washed away as the driven snow. The next 18 years as the mother of your beautiful girl will be the most glorious, loving, joyous years of your life. Yes, they will be filled with trials, with heartache, with tears sometimes, but also with blushing love that only children can add to life.

How to deal with the father of your baby? Tracy, turn to the book of Micah for a moment.

Micah 6
8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?

To do justly means that you must pray for wisdom and sound judgment as to your future plans. Decisions as to where you will live, how to best care for your baby, and how to support your family require quiet prayer time with the Lord. Such decisions require wise counsel from those chose to you in whom you trust and love. Seek those people out and ask for their protection and care as you decide how you should proceed. If you are in any physical danger from the father, sound wisdom calls for you to first protect yourself and your baby girl from him.

Love mercy Tracy. We at times are unloveable, so must we know that those around us are so too. The father of your baby surely has his own set of problems, insecurities, and mean spirited behavour to be sure. Just as the Lord has washed even this man's sin away, as He has yours, treat this man with the mercy shown you, shown to all of us, by God. Love him as a child of God, even if you do not love him in your heart as a husband.

Walk humbly with thy God. When we are treated with mean behavior, we want to return the act with like behavior. Resist this, Tracy. One day at a time, renew your humble walk with Christ by spending time Him in prayer, adoration, and worship. Allow God's beautiful love for you to fill your heart and mind. When you do this, you will find, perhaps, that the relations with the father may be less contentious and driven by manipulation. Don't try to change him, Tracy. Allow him to see Christ in you, pure and simply, and on a consistent basis.

Finally, Tracy, continue to read the devotions on this web site daily. You will find great wisdom and guidance in your growth in the Lord. As you will find, too, you will find many wonderful people ready and willing to reach out to you in love, prayer, and encouragement.

God Bless You, Tracy.

Nick P.

Gosh!

Thank you soooo much (Nichole and Nick) for your sound advise and your wonderful prayers. I'm literally beside myself with warmth and the holy spirit flowing thru me right now. The baby is asleep at the moment so I'll take this opportunity to do some reading and to go speak the Lord!!

Bless you all!
Tracy

Most Gracious and Holy Father,
I lift up Tracey and her precious gift of life. Lord I ask that you give my sister wisdom, comfort, knowledge, strength and anything else she needs. I lift up the father and ask that you heal him from his pain dear Lord. We know that hurt people hurt other people and we stand in agreement right now for healing for this man. Lord we know that we are unable to do it and we must depend solely on you. Lord I ask that you deliver him from the hand of the enemy. Master I ask that you anoint this precious gift, father I ask that Tracey always look to you before she makes any decisions regarding your gift this precious baby. Master we know that you do not bless every woman with a child, but you choose Tracey and we thank you. Lord we lift this family up to you and ask that daily they look to you for guidance and direction. Master I ask that Tracey know that you are a forgiver of ALL our sins and that you do not hold anything against us. Master we thank you for the POWER of FORGIVNESS. Lord we love you. Lord we need you. Lord we just thank you and ask that you give ears to our words right now. We ask that you order our steps right now. We ask that when the enemies rise up against us we immediately turn to you for guidance. Lord we reverse you. Please lord hear our cry right now. Amen

Tracy,
What has been said here is all true. Trust the Lord your God, with all your heart, soul, and mind. He will direct path and give you great blessings. Keep Him first in your life. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not upon your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path." (Proverbs 3:5). In Him, you will find the strength to do the battles that come before you. Put your life in the hands of your Creator. Let Him lead you in all things.
Father God I lift up your child Tracy. I ask that a hedge of thorns be placed around her and her daughter. Protect them Lord from all that would do harm. Show her your ways Father, let the healing blood of your Son, Jesus Christ be poured over her. Let Tracy truly understand, what it means to be forgiven. Father I also ask that you will open her eyes, so that she may see the path that you have set before her. I pray that her daughter will be raised in a Christian home, with a loving family dedicated to Jesus Christ. Father we ask this in the name of your Holy Son, Jesus. Amen!
My salvation and my honor depend on God.
He is my mighty rock, my refuge.
Trust in him at all times, O people;
pour out your hearts to him,
for God is our refuge. Psalm 62: 7-8

Tracy, I will be praying prayers of guidance and protection for you and your precious daughter.

Your Brother in Christ,
Brian

Tracy
I will be praying for you and your baby. Alll of the above replies are great counsel. God's grace and tender mercies are yours and God wants you to have all his wisdom and benifits. Love the Lord with all your heart, mind and strength and love your neighbor as yourself. The fruits of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, temperance, and faith. Ask God to fill you with the holy spirit. Read his word and pray daily and obey his word the best you can.

Tracy -

Praise God for your heart in seeking Him for the answers. What an encouragement that is to me. As I have read the responses of these wonderful brothers and sisters all I can say is Amen. There is a tremendous amount of truth here and I encourage you to read and reread these, meditate on them and ask God to speak to you through these. There is a great deal of encouragement that comes from this board and I hope you use it as you need it.

Also, I was enocuraged by your response of spending time in the Word and with God. These truly are the keys that will get you through this time. And know when this is complete, if you are steadfast and hold tightly to the things you know are true, you will become stronger in the Lord and in the power of His might.

Scripture say to get wisdom and with wisdom understanding. That is my prayer for you. Understanding is the revelation of what God is saying and knowing how to put into practice what you know is right.

Be encouraged Tracy and thanks for sharing your testimony.

Father,

Right now we ask that You release a garrison of angel around Tracy and her child. Protect them from everything that tries to come against her. May she learn to walk in the peace, joy and love that you have for her. May she learn the value of rejoices always, praying without ceasing and giving thanks for everything for this is the perfect will of God concerning us.

Father, I also ask that you do what you need to do to bring the father of this child to your loving knowledge of grace and mercy. If necessary father, bring him to his knees so that he turns his heart completely to you.

God is you are so perfect and all knowing. Thank you for loving us and helping us in trust in You even when the circumstances seem poor. You are our God and we will ever praise you!

In Jesus' name. Amen

Tracey,

You brought your request to a great message board. We Thank God for your request. Your baby is not a mistake, God knows your situation and we are here to ask God for healing, guidance, peace and his everlasting love. Continue to seek God he will show you what you need.
Father God,
Release Tracey and the Father from any strongholds the enemy may try to hold. Release healing in their hearts. Show them the way, teach them your path Psalm 25:4.

We will keep praying for your child and your well being!!

Dear GDW family,

I can't begin to tell you how wonderful it is to know that there are so many good and gracious people out there. Thank you all so much for your prayers and advice. I've been reading GDW devotions for about 3 years now, however, this is the first time I've posted a prayer request. God is SO GREAT! I've been reading, praying and giving thanks, and this week went by without an ugly encounter from the father! Praise GOD! Thank you all so MUCH! I love each and every one of you!

Your Sister!
Tracy

Tracy,
Praise God! Please stay encourage. God loves you. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it!

Have a blessed day.
Nicole (NB)

Father God, we lift Tracy up to You tonight, and ask that You bless her with peace. Grant her a glimpse of the wonderful future You have planned for her and her little one. Grant her assurance that You will not hold her sins against her, EVER, not the ones in the past or any in the future. You will readily forgive and restore and cleanse from all unrighteousness. Your love, O Lord is beyond our understanding. We praise You for this family You've given us. For each of our precious members who give us joy as they bring their concerns to You and allow us to share them, too. Bless Tracy abundantly, Father. Grant her courage, and wisdom, and strength, and Your love for her child and the father of this child. Allow her to look past the evil and to see the hurting person and to experience Your compassion and administer Your mercy. We thank You for Tracy tonight, Lord, and commit her and her precious child to You. In Jesus Precious Name we pray for we know that Trustworthy is our God!

I just want to say how proud I am of this community. You are doing a wonderful job of ministering and sharing the love of Christ. Never doubt that He is being glorified as you pour your heart into the life of others - even though you may never see them this side of Heaven. Keep up the good work!!