My husband of 16 years have been divorced since May. He had been cheating with his best friends wife, she was my friend, her child and my child were best friends, I was her nurse at the birth of her child. The affair started in 2002 and they hid it. I told him I would leave if I ever caught him again. Well on Good Friday in 2004 I caught them in the hotel. He was aiding her with leaving her husband and supporting her in a hotel while we were married. There were issues of alcoholism and drug abuse on their parts. They have been living together since. I begged him to let her go and seek counceling, to come home. He still lives with her. I remind him that what he and her did was wrong. Many people are devasted from this especially the children. He asserts that he wants to date me while he continues to live with this woman and states: "yes I mad some mistakes but I am a nice guy." I reminded him to read the bible on the subject matter. My heart is so broken, I feel these two people ruptured my soul. I prayed for a long-time for reconcilation yet God didn't restore my marriage. I am so torn. I do still love him, but can't get him to see the error of his ways. He's arrogant and verbally abuse towards me at times. You may wonder what is my problem why does this fool still love her husband? Still in my heart I pray that one day God will convict him and he will come home and be the Christian person he could be. He will periodically go church with us, but he never repents only blames me for the mess we are in. I confronted her husband and informed him of the affair he claims I should have been more discrete. Pleas advise me I am tired of grieving of this issue. Should I just let it go?

Hello Brtomek,

I am sorry for you and for your son, that your lives have been so tattered by the sins of your husband. First, you have our prayers and the prayers of many who have read your story. Nothing, nothing, tears at the heart like unfaithfulness in marriage, and yet, it is pervasive in our land, even in the church.

I like this article on the subject of divorce and remarriage as it provides a brief discussion of many of the scriptural basis' for divorce.

http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/edn-f004.html

God's word is to be our yard stick and must always be referred to in life changing matters. While friends, family, and even those who pray for you on this site can provide advice, following such advice is problematic at best for many reasons. We don't know you or your former husband and more importantly, our own advice, such as it is, is effected by our own experiences, such as they are. I imagine you have received much advice from those you know and love and yet you are still torn as to your best course of action.

The real path you seek, I am sure, is God's chosen way, or perfect will, for you and your son. God is faithful to show you His will for you and your son regarding continued contact with your former husband and whether you should "let go". Spend some time with the scriptures contained in the article I have referenced for you, especially 1 Corinthians 7. God will show you the best way to proceed. Somehow, God does provide a sense of peace for us when we find his perfect will for our lives in all situations.

God bless you.

Nick P.