I do have a problem with my own father it seems he doesn't want to see me any more enen to go to his house i can't. i can not even go and see my mother. my father has got two wifes and my mother is the first wife since my father married the second wife we are always in disagreements. there is no one who is write from my father's first marriage. only the second wife and his children are being recognised.i even try to help my father financial but he doesn't seems to realise that.


I also do not understand what is happening to my family (My wife and child)there are always disagreements now and then we never have time for the family I don't know i need help to over come all these.

Dear tmson, I would encourage you to join/get involved with a church that teaches the Holy Bible, the whole Word of God. Your earthly father appears to be lost, or at least not walking in the Light of the Word. Gods Word is clear about family and relationships, and your earthly father has missed the designed relationship plan. I feel for the disappointments you have in your earthly father, but I would suggest that if you will study of your heavenly Father you will realize your always welcome in His house. Not only are you welcome you are loved and cherished.

As for your immediately family, we all have difficulties, disappointments and struggles sometimes, the important thing is to bring ALL our petitions before the Lord knowing He is able to and helps in ALL circumstances in our lives, this includes the relationships in our lives.

Give thanks in ALL circumstances, for this is Gods will for you in Christ Jesus.
I Thessalonians 5:18
Faith in Him

Hello TMSON,

As instructed in the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20:12 and again in Deuteronomy 5:16 and Ephesians 6:2, we are to honor our fathers and mothers. Obviously, we are to follow God's commandments to us, but when God provides certain teaching not once, but three times on a topic, the teaching commands focused respect and obedience from us.

Knowing we are to honor our fathers and mothers, we must determine how that honor is to be shown in all matters. You must honor your fathers wishes so if he prefers to not see you, you are to obey him. We must honor our mothers as well and how you show honor to both of your parents at the same time should be guided by prayer and wisdom from the Lord.

These scriptures, especially Ephesians 6 also provide wonderful instruction for us on how to be Godly parents. For instance notice in Ephesians 6:4, we are instructed to not provoke our children to anger, but to raise them in the teaching and discipline of the Lord. Notice also in verse 7 that we are to serve our family with good will as unto the Lord.

I note you say your family is is always in a disagreeable frame of mind and you never have time for family times. You as the spiritual leader of your own family, you are to take the lead in serving your wife and child as you would serve Jesus himself. Sometimes parents provoke anger in their children as a result of how we talk, provide instruction, or guide them. As far as finding the time to spend together as a family, As your father wishes, it sounds like he doesn't want to see you much, so perhaps whatever time you would have spent with your father may be freed up to add to the time you spend with your wife and child instead.

Finally my friend, notice in Ephesians 6:10-20 that the battles that face us many times in the family are spiritual battles. Meditate on this scripture. You will see that in addition to being an honoring father and husband with your attention and time, we are to put on the "whole armour of God" and realize wickedness in high places. The devil himself wants to destroy our families. We will be victorious over this wickedness through the power and might of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen?

I will be praying for you TMSON. God bless you.

Nick P.



Exodus 20:12

http://www.christiananswers.net/bible/exo20.html

Ephesians 6:

http://www.christiananswers.net/bible/eph6.html

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I thank you very much for you Godly advice i will folow the Lord's way. i will never fall away from him he is my serviour.

i notice in Psalm 27:10

it says,"When my fahter and My Motherforsake me, then the lord will take me up. teach me thyway, o Lord, and lead me in a plain path, because of mine enemies

i will make sure the lordis with me all the time through prayers me and my wife.

thank you for praying for us my God abuntly bless you.

T Musonza