My mother has asked me to send a prayer request on her behalf. She is 56 years old and alone every day. She keeps looking back over the years when she wasn't alone and when she had my younger sister to take places. My mother worries now over everything and every little thing about her life. She wishes she could find a christian fellow who would come into her life in hopes of marrying. She doesn't want to be alone anymore. My mother also has nerve damage in her hand from a fall that was not properly taken care of and fears of Parkinsons b/c her mother had it. So I prayer that the Lord guide her and give her comfort. I pray that she be fulfilled with his love and peace. I pray that she be blessed with christian friends and that she'll find a christian companion to come into her life. Please pray for my mother, it will really make her feel better. Thank you.

FAther,
I come lifting Lisa's mother to you. I ask that you bless her with a man after your own heart. Father please move in this situation immediatealy. Amen

Dear Lisa,
I have been thinking about your momma since I read your post last night. I am 48 years old; and, have gone through major life changes several times in the past 10 years.

I found that what was at issue was how I defined or identified myself. I had been a full-time mother, and suddenly I wasn't. I had been a wife and suddenly wasn't. I had been an employee, and suddenly wasn't. I had been at the top of my class intellectually, and suddenly couldn't pass a math exam.

Each time, I realized that what was at stake was how I saw myself: how I labeled "who" I was. Each time, it seemed I had lost something; and, I tried at first to reclassify myself. Each time, God impressed on me that I could only truly find myself in Him.

Most recently, when I failed the math exam and was not accepted into Graduate school, it seemed I had nothing left. What had never before failed me, what I could fall back on no matter what else I lost, was the fact that I was smart. I had learned very early on, that people gave me respect for that. Now, suddenly, people who knew seemed to treat me differently. They teased me and made comments about their academic successes. I felt like I was worthless.

I kicked into high gear trying to find something to attach to myself to give myself meaning and value. But, nothing seemed to fit "me". Then, the Lord spoke to me. He showed me in the Word that I am to be hidden in Him. My life is Hid with God in Christ. He wants me to become One with Him. He wants me to be satisfied to be conformed to the image of His Son; not to need to be an individual that stands out because of some human standard of valuation.

Please speak to your momma. Explain to her what the process is that is happening to her. Help her to understand that if we want to have God in the fullest sense of the Word, we must first only want to find ourselves in Him: to define ourselves as His Children, His Bride. In doing this, we no longer "need" a man, or a job, or children. And, once we do not "need" them, God can give them to us, because then they are not simply a "crutch" or a form of medication; but, we can truly treat them as a gift from God that we are allowed to enjoy for our mutual good and for God's glory.

Forgive me for being so lengthy; but, your momma's situation can only truly be helped if she gains understanding. Otherwise, even a good man will only be a short-term fix.

My prayer for her is this:
Father, You love Lisa's mother beyond her wildest dreams. You grieve with her because you know the depths of her lonliness. But, Lord, You also desire to fill her emptiness with Yourself, for You know that only in You can she be truly fulfilled. Bless her with this understanding, Father. Grant her great joy as she seeks You first and foremost for her companion and lover. Remove all of her fears as you open her eyes and her heart to the depths of Your love for her and your plan for her life.

Send her wonderful people who will not take advantage of her vulnerability to help her through this period of transition. And, as it is right, grant her the deepest desires of her heart. We give You glory and honour and praise for your faithfulness, Wisdom, mercy and grace toward us. We thank You for Your kindness and for hearing and answering our prayers for Lisa's momma. Trustworthy is our God!!!