My husband left me for another woman and I am having a very difficult time dealing with the emotions, the betrayal, the breakup of the marriage.

I am a saved Christian woman and my husband is saved, supposedly as well. But, the facts are the facts. He left me after months of an adulterous affair.

We both need prayers.
Thank you.

You and you husband will be in my prayers. Continue to lean upon Jesus and read His Word through this difficulty. He has all the power and strength needed to guide you through this. I can’t imagine your hurt, but I know that God wants to carry all your burdens.

t_marie

First of all welcome to the board. God has directed you to a safe haven. This board is a powerful place and there are many people here who will stand in the gap for you as you walk this road that lies ahead.

It is not an easy road my friend. I was exactly in the same place you were 19 months ago. It is the hardest, most gut wrenching place I had ever been in. But if you truly give it to God t_marie He is faithful and will get you through this time in your life.

First, you need to know that this was not God and God had nothing to do with your husband's decision. It was your husband's choice to do this, not God's and not yours.

That is another point to let sink deep into your heart. You did not do anything to cause him to make the poor choices he made. Your husband was confronted with temptation and he succumbed to it. Unfortunately, so many of us do not think about the consequences of our decisions and choices until it is too late. But he will have to face the consequences of his decisions ultimately as we all will.

Understand that you have been deeply hurt, betrayed and wounded. But, God is there for you. He is there every step of the way. He knows your hurt, your pain and He sees you when you cry. He is there to love on you and comfort you through this. The hard thing is that you do not get to see Him or touch Him. But none the less, He is there for you. This is where FAITH comes in and believe t_marie if you place your trust, hope and faith in Him, He will not disappoint you. He knows the plans He has for you t_marie. They are good plans, not plans to harm. They are plans that will give you hope and a future. But you need to hand on and trust God like you have never trusted Him before.

Next, I would advise you to ask God to give you a small circle of Godly people who will be there for you but more importantly, as make you accountable. You are going to go through a tremendous roller coaster ride over the several months. You are going to need folks who will listen and give you the Word of God back and Godly advise. Not folks who will walk down the path of verbally tearing down your husband and what he has and is doing. You see, even through this hurt and pain, you are still called to walk like Jesus walked. This means that at some point you are going to have to start the path down forgiveness. Although that may sound like a swear word right now, it is the key to your becoming complete and whole again. You do not have to condone or even desire to be around your husband. But you must forgive the sin that he has committed against you and God. I know that's a biggie right now but it is the truth and the key to your restoration and reconciliation. Trust me on this.

If you have the means, I would also suggest that you enlist the serves of a highly reputable and trusted Christian counselor. I had my last session with mine two months ago and although there were some really hard session, God used these in a powerful way to build me up and cause me to take a hard look at myself as well. I can tell you I am not the same person I was 19 months ago. I am stronger, loving, more compassionate person. You can be too t_marie, but the road you have been placed on is not an easy one.

There are two roads you can chose. The wide road which will only bring you more pain, sorrow and heartache or the narrow road which while it is hard for a while, brings you to a place of newness and wholenss through Christ Jesus. It will give you a new perspective on life and refreshment to your spirit. I know it is hard to beleive, but it is true. Also, it takes time as this is a process.

My heart goes out to you my friend. Please know that I will be praying for you and your husband and this situation. Know too that although this has happen to you, if you let God have His way in your life, this can be a powerful ministry for you to others. I am living proof of it. Although my situation ended in divorce, I will pray that there be restoration and reconciliation in your life and your marriage.

Hang in there, trust and believe in God with all of your heart. You WILL MAKE it through this and become a stronger person becaus eof it.

Be blessed and know that you are not alone in this.

Howard

t_marie, you will be in my prayers. I am praying that God will comfort you during this difficult time.

Kim S.