Hi all, I am here to share becoz I am really LOST and knowing that I shouldn't meet anyone from my own local church here...
I am sorry to say this but frankly speaking...I am terrified to let my church knows abt this...

I am currently one of the youth leaders in my church,actively serving in other areas in the church as well...However recently I begin to like this girl in my youth.Perhaps many of you will think that's fine,but the main issue here is that she is only 16,and I am 25 now. The age gap is one thing,our status in church is really affecting me too...becoz I am afraid to hear wat other people will have to say abt this...imagine a cell leader liking his own sheep...=.=

I really don't know what to do,how to do and even know how to pray abt it...I have been thru relationships before and they failed without God being the centre...This time I really want to put God in the centre,but I am afraid to know His answer or respond to it.

I once shared this with my close friend how I feel right now...

"I feel that I am like a kid...wanting smthing from his father...but so so so scared to know wat his father might say...so he keeps quiet...and just stay in his father's arms...keeping quiet...all alone"

that's exactly how I feel...if u have any suggestions or testimony to share...please let me know...I really need to be enlighten...

Thanks and God bless all of you...

Brother, as a teacher, instructing 16 year olds like you, and being a mother of three girls, I would not advise you to attempt this relationship. At both of your current ages it is not appropriate. Later in life it will not be as big of a deal. In most/all(?) states this age difference is illegal, and I'm guessing her parents would not be too thrilled about the situation. I would pray to God that these temptations leave your mind and help you to see this young lady for what she is, A Young Lady. Jesus can see into your heart so there is no need to fear what His response will be. I can see He is already working in you or you would not have seeked help with this situation. Stay close to God and lead this young lady down a faithful walk towards our Heavenly Kingdom rather than a temptful path full of sin as much as you can! I will pray for you to stay strong!

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I have read your post several times and taken it to prayer as well. The age issue hopefully is obvious to you that it is not in the best interest of either of you to pursue. Anderson is correct, if you pursue this, it is most likely illegal. This will not only shame you but also the young lady you are smitten with. Not to mention it will bring dishonor to God.

If I am understanding you correctly you have not moved forward in advancing this relationship. I encourage you not to.

Additionally, it is extremely important that you do go to leadership and tell them of your attraction. You must not keep this secret from the leadership nor God. Leadership is responsible to God, the church and your families for you and that young lady. Their decision may not be your heart's desire but it will be what is best in the sight of God and could keep you from sinning before God.

You should have no fear of what people say. If they are truly Godly men and women they will move in a direction of love, grace and mercy...but also of righteousness. You may be reassigned to another group or offered counseling, but isn't that better than putting yourself and that young lady at risk?

Scripture is clear, Isa 29:15 "Those who try to hide their plans from the LORD are doomed! They carry out their schemes in secret and think no one will see them or know what they are doing."

Mat 10:26 "So do not be afraid of people. Whatever is now covered up will be uncovered, and every secret will be made known."

Luk 12:2 "Whatever is covered up will be uncovered, and every secret will be made known."

My encouragement to is to go to leadership with this issue. Be open, honest and ask for guidance and direction in how to best handle it. I beleive that you know what is right already simply from your post. You are being torn in two different directions and seem confused. Know that God is not the author of confusion and as a result if you do what you know is right, God can work with that and move towards healing your heart.

I will be praying for you as I can only imagine what a terrific struggle this is for you. But I implore you to stay strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. He will see you through this and take you to a better place and situation.

Be blessed my brother.

I will definitley be in prayer for you and your struggle with this emotional tie you have with this young woman. Remember satan has a way of planting seeds that he hopes will blossom and allow us to stray from God's word and his teachings. My prayer for you is that this seed will wither and that your connection with the Lord will be renewed during this test in your leadership role. God Bless!

From your posting it sounds like you know you are looking at a pathway you know should not walk. You are an adult, talking about a 16 year old CHILD. It might be that you should resign your position as a youth leader for now and explain your situation to your pastor. I'm of the mind that God knows before we speak and will help us if we ask in Jesus name. I will pray for both you and this child.

Hi all,

I will like to thank all of you for the advice and prayers...I am here to procalm that our God is faithful and rightenous...He did not let me stumble,and He kept me safe in His hands without hurts.

The whole matter had been resolved...We had some divine sharing and with God in our midest, we had cleared the feelings and I can say that I am 200% peace in me and we all know that is within God's will...and in fact I am thankful that we both grew closer to God in the whole process.

I am really touched by so many replies and prayers...I felt so loved by all of you!!Praise the Lord for so many brothers and sisters in Christ...Thanks lots!!^^