Hi everyone,
My husband-walked out today when i was not home.he did not call me. my landlord told me. Finally i got to speak to him and he said that he was tired of outr relationship not working and that the marriage was just a paper. I asked him why he could not wait for me to come home and he said that goodbye over the phone was fine. I am so sad because I did not get a chance to if hold him one last time. All this he says is because i looked at his cell phone.
I spoke to the pastor of our old church and truthfully we did not seek any counsel before we got married.
i love him so much -his parents hate me and now they told him to divorce me. I feel so sad but i am holding on to God and his will. Please continue to pray for me. It means so much knowing people are holding me in prayer.
Thank you all, Promise

Dear Promise,

My prayers are joined the the other on this message board for your broken heart. You did not happen on to this site by accident and so your prayers to the Lord are already being answered.

Promise, your heart is with the Lord. Your words of faith show that, but actions of your husband show that his heart is not with God. In essence, you were unequally yoked with your husband and Paul cautions us about such unions in 2 Corinthians 6. He has done an incredibly horrendous thing to you, but since he is not a Christian, honor and the love of Christ cannot be expected from his heart. Apart from the physical love you have for him, spiritually, you have nothing in common with him.

Perhaps more devastating than your husbands cold hearted departure, is his exposure of potentially dangerous diseases to you from his lifestyle. This is not to try to scare you, promise, but the prevalence of sexually transmitted diseases, some of which could put to risk your ability to have children, are very real.

Check out this site. http://www.christian.org.uk/html-publications/stdsthefacts.html

Get yourself checked by a physician.

Promise, perhaps it is not my place to provide this further advice, but I do feel led to. Let him go. He may return, ask you to take him back, beg for another chance. So a man is going into a marriage, will be be in it. Continue to pray for him, as will we, but to avoid a decade or more of roller coaster heart ache from a dishonorable man, God admonishes us to not tie our lives to non-believers and we pay a painful price when we fail to follow that teaching.

Heavenly Father, than you for Promise's vulnerabilty in reaching out for prayerful grace and help. We lift up Promise to you now, asking that you will sooth the pain in her heart. Help her to know that you love her with an everlasting heart. Give her direction for her life and Godly wisdom beyond her years. Strengthen her for the decisions that lie before her and what is to come. We pray for her husband, that you will turn him away from his disasterous lifestyle and lead him to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ in his life. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.

Nick P.

Hi Promise, I will pray for you during this very difficult time. Another area of Biblical wisdom for you as it relates to your marriage is found in 1 Corinthians 7:10-16.



Continue to tell God all your hurts and questions you might have. Maintaining a good line of communication with Him will be important so that you can maintain you spiritual strength which will of course affect all other areas of your life. Seek God through this. He will be your greatest comforter.
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hi shawn and nick and everyone else.
I am sad but the last two nights when i lay in bed , i realized that my husband had shown me signs from the past but because i loved him so much i was blind. i wanted him to love me so much and fell for all his lies. I just found out in the last 2 weekks so much about who he really is. he has kept so much from me.
i think i let him treat me that way cause i didnot have respect for myself. He was a church goer for many years.
after all of this i realized that i was in denial and ignores all the signs. I just loved him so much-more than myself.
because of my love for him i lost a lot of friends who told me that the relationship was wrong but i went ahead.
God give me the strength to live each moment and to trust you only even when you say no-it is for my good.
father forgive me for all i have done wrong.

thank you all again.thank you for your prayers.

Dear Promise:
I am so sorry for your loss. I have lived what you are going through.I will pray for your spiritual healing. Often our loved ones and friends can see what we are blind too. In reading your comments I see you lost friends because of your spouse. True love seeks to lift each other up spiritually not bring each other down. You devoted yourself to a man that professes to have been or pretending to be a Christian yet does not know the word of God. Please go to the libary and immediately check out this book: Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson. I wish I had read it years ago! Begging and groveling only will push him away further. Work on your spiritual growth instead because God is your anchor, he will never betray you. Respond to him, that you will miss him but honor his request. Also as a victim of this situation myself go get tested for all STD's, my exhusband gave me a STD for which there is no cure (no it's not AID's) but I have to live with his sins. You are the hero of your own story focus on God, family, and work.

Precious Father,
I lift up my sister and her family to you right now. I ask that you would strengthen her during this time as she needs you lord she needs you right now. I thank you that you are our comforter during these times. Lord Jesus we come to you asking you for clarity, understanding of what you have in store for our lives. I ask that your will be done in our lives daily and I ask that you give us a spirit to accept your will for our lives. Master we thank you right now for giving us your spirit and we thank you for dieing on the cross for us.

Cover my sister right now with your goodness and make her whole like only you can. We love you lord and we thank you right now.

In your mighty and holy name we pray Amen