I can't stand the sight of very attractive women on TV. I feel like they are displayed everywhere for men. I trust my husband, but I can't seem to get over the fact that our world shows half naked women all over and there is nothing the wives can do about it. How do I learn to put this out of my heart? Where in the Bible would I learn about trust and getting help for this type of issue?

The 1st word that comes to mind is "desenseitizing" (who knows if I spelt that one right) - basically the fact that when I was growing up married couples slept in seperate beds on T.V. & they couldn't say the word "Dam"; nowadays we have graduated to saying much worse words & quite lewd actions & that on network T.V., daytime, prime time & on networks, not only on cable like in the old days.
The 2nd word that comes to mind is "sex sells" - basically that the skimpier the bikini that is associated with your product, the more revenue you will make.
My webpage has a link 2 a christian site that counsels porography addicts, btw.
Bassically what I was saying is that as long as the Devil is the "prince & power of the air(waves), there is little chance of seeing any less skin on T.V. - perhaps if we all lobbied or boycotted T.V. & the products they advertise then that would send a message; but we as a society are too apathetic to all get together even for something as important as this - we want our charmin & our lexus & whatever else the sex is selling so it won't stop.
We just gotta pray that we can teach our children that they don't have to be half naked to be accepted.

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Hello JD,

There is nothing wrong in your awareness that much of what is passed off as entertainment on TV and in popular movies is not what a Christian should be making a part of their life. For the Christian, the Holy Spirit quickens us to many things that are to be reproved or rebuked, as Jesus told us in John 16:7-8. Your concerns about immoral and indecent dress and entertainments are just and true. Consider these scriptures also as they relate to how the Lord wants us to live:

John 15:19
If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

Romans 12:2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Colossians 3:2
Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

Colossians 3:5
Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:

Titus 2:12
Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;

1 Peter 2:11
Dearly beloved, I beseech [you] as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;

1 John 2:15-17
Love not the world, neither the things [that are] in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that [is] in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

I recommend you and your husband study these scriptures as they relate to what you watch on television and movies. Your husband should really be taking the lead on this, as lust is present in the hearts of all men, and women too. Do not be deceived to think that nakedness of women is not enticing to your husband. Believing that simply watching such material on TV or in movies is but harmless fun is contrary to scripture and a lie from the enemy because as Peter notes above, we are to abstain from fleshly lusts. Monitor what programming you allow into your home and pray together that the Holy Spirit would continue to quicken you both about entertainment that is unpleasing to God.

Fear is the opposite of trust, JD. Consider this scripture from 1 John:

1 John 14:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear; because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

As you and your husband pray, ask the Lord to cast out fear from your heart. You both still must do your part in avoidance of that which is tempting. As you have said, alluring images are everywhere and you and your husband will not be able to avoid them, but through meditation of His Word and obedience to it, you will be able to deal with it in a victorious manner. God bless you.

Nick P.

Before I became a Christian, my wife did a very sneaky thing. She prayed for me. You probably cannot do anything by yourself to change the way television or magazines portray sexuality to everyone. But, you can pray for your husband everyday. Pray for strength, and pray the Holy Spirit guards his heart.

What a great question! Wouldn't you know I'd be drawn to a question about a half naked woman! As usual, Slade and Nick give great replies. Jeffboz, your advice to pray without ceasing is also absolutely necessary.

I want to focus a little on Nick's reply about not believing the lie that the nakedness (or semi-nakedness) of a women is not enticing to your husband. This is so true! We men are so prone to saying "That doesn't really interest me." And women are so prone to believing us. The combination is often a disastrous slope of sin. This is because women don't understand how the male mind really works. We are badly depraved and greatly tempted in the area of lust. There must be a stronger way to say greatly tempted but all I can think of is GREATLY tempted! And I'm not convinced this can ever be completely prayed out of us.

I spend a great deal of time in prayer and in the study of God's Word. And yet, I'm not so foolish to think I'm protected from lusting after half-naked women. The world is full of such women and, as has been said, we are being desensitized to think this is normal. Well it's not! I take a "just say no" approach whenever possible - and it's not always possible.

I almost never watch television. I don't do this as a form of legalism, but there is almost nothing on anymore which encourages me to be the man I desire to be - and it's no longer relaxing for me to be enticed into lustful sin. I'll sometimes watch shows with my kids and once in a while a movie with my wife, but we always use the guideline in our home that if it isn't appropriate for Jesus then it's not appropriate for us.

I spend a LOT of time on the computer and, praise God, I have never once visited a porn site. One reason is I have a very good understanding about how weak I am. I cannot casually visit such a site, "out of curiosity," as some are so deceived. If I visited such a site I would be immediately pulled into sin. I also have an acute awareness that Christ is with me at all times, so why would I take Jesus to such a site. However, if I ever lose this awareness and allow myself to be controlled by my flesh, I too would quickly fall - so please keep me lifted up in prayer.

Men - we need to get serious about this issue. Can must stop dancing around the edge of what we think is acceptable or what we have convinced our wife to allow. Lust will consume us and eventually overtake us and lead to disaster if you don't put some firm guidelines in our life and make ALL areas of our life honoring to God.

Thanks for letting me ramble!