Since we have friends here on board to help us on christian issues, I have always wanted to ask that: is it wrong/unchristian to search for a partner in matchmakers associations? Or is it still wrong to ask a friend to get you a partner? Am I being impatient when I do this? Or still as I seek my partner in matchmaker assc. or a friend can I pray about the result?
Erona - Would God choose to work through a matchmaker association? Of course, God can work through any means He chooses, but this is not much different than saying we're going to pray for God to send us a partner as we search for one at the local bars (taverns or clubs). I don't believe this is in God's usual plan and I'd never recommend it to anyone. If we ever feel we must search, let's search where we'd have a better chance of finding someone who loves the Lord with all their heart, soul, mind and strength. This is the kind of person God desires for us.
When I was living in the world, following my own directions; I failed in relationships. When I gave up drug dealing 10 years ago and all the things that were hindering my life with God, then through prayer and direction of our Lord, I met a person with the same desires and Love for the Lord. I give Him all praise and Glory for answering my prayers. If we go out looking for a partner with out the Lord the path becomes harder. I do not claim to judge any person that does not have a relationship with God. I pray for their salvation. There are many families that have issues with their marriage when only one of the partners is with the Lord. Please be encouraged to seek God for his guidance in this situation. I pray that the Holy Spirit would reveal and guide you to a Godly person..
Praise the Lord for asking!
God cares for you and wants the best for your life!!
Erona, I think that the most important issue here isn't how exactly you meet your future partner, but that you trust that your heavenly father has a good and perfect plan for you- which may or may not include marriage. It's something that I too struggle with sometimes, but it's so important to remember that what we have in Jesus is all we need- that it's his grace that is sufficient for us. Enjoy the extra opportunities that you have to serve HIM while you're single, and without the distractions and extra responsibilities that a partner and family entail. Also, keep in mind that God often works in ways which are beyond our understanding at the time, but when we surrender all to him and fully trust in his will for our lives, things will make sense eventually. I hope that helps. Your sister Katya
Thank you so much for your responses. So now I know its OK to ask a friend to help me find a partner but most important pray for guidance in the search and of course a good result; though it may not be all that I wanted in a partner but at least 50% may be a good result. And about patience??? Thanx once again. God bless.
Erona Why settle for 50% when you can have 100 % of God's best for you? The trouble with dating matchmaker orgs is that you are putting your hope in the world system for your future. First of all, I've heard bad things about these, even Christian ones. I'm not saying that if you have used them you are not a christian. Just that I don't think it is wise. Also ask yourself some questions like is this friend of mine I want to ask to help me find a man a christian after God's heart and will? Is she living a faithful christian life? Is she wise in things of God? What kind of people does she associate closely with? Patience is a work of God and one of the fruits of the holy spirit. Persevering in the faith and learning to trust God always even when things don't look hopeful helps to develop in us patience. It is also a command. We are told that we will reap in due season, if we faint not. Being that patience is of God, ( originates from) the holy spirit, it is in His power in us that we have the ability to persevere, have patience, trust God for the outcome. We have to co operate with God by obeying him. Seek him with ALL your heart, mind and strength and he will bless you abundantly above all you could ever imagine. I believe if you pray and seek the will of God concerning the man you marry that He will send that perfect one into your life, a christian man who will truly love and adore you, treat you well, provide well and be an excellent father to your children and raise them up in Christ. Trust God''s timing too. His plan for us is good and not evil. Psalm 34:8-22 is for you. Read it and pray it and wait on the Lord. The holy spirit ( the comforter) leads us into all truth and shows us things to come.( in John's gospel) I pray for your prayers to be answered. That you continue to grow in the knowledge of God and faith and wisdom. I pray that you will experience an abundant life. I pray for strength, patience and love to have it's perfect work in you. May God send encouragement and peace and show you glimpses of what blessings are in store for you if you trust Him.
Erona Why settle for 50% when you can have 100 % of God's best for you? The trouble with dating matchmaker orgs is that you are putting your hope in the world system for your future. First of all, I've heard bad things about these, even Christian ones. I'm not saying that if you have used them you are not a christian. Just that I don't think it is wise. Also ask yourself some questions like is this friend of mine I want to ask to help me find a man a christian after God's heart and will? Is she living a faithful christian life? Is she wise in things of God? What kind of people does she associate closely with? Patience is a work of God and one of the fruits of the holy spirit. Persevering in the faith and learning to trust God always even when things don't look hopeful helps to develop in us patience. It is also a command. We are told that we will reap in due season, if we faint not. Being that patience is of God, ( originates from) the holy spirit, it is in His power in us that we have the ability to persevere, have patience, trust God for the outcome. We have to co operate with God by obeying him. Seek him with ALL your heart, mind and strength and he will bless you abundantly above all you could ever imagine. I believe if you pray and seek the will of God concerning the man you marry that He will send that perfect one into your life, a christian man who will truly love and adore you, treat you well, provide well and be an excellent father to your children and raise them up in Christ. Trust God''s timing too. His plan for us is good and not evil. Psalm 34:8-22 is for you. Read it and pray it and wait on the Lord. T
PAX, it's like you have taken me thru' the valleys & storms. Your response is a good one. It's probably what my heart has been waiting for. Thank you too for your prayer. I want to be like you & others & more like Jesus. Patience is beautiful; I will wait. I have always been afraid of permanent relationships, I dont know why. I keep on thinking that mayB God is waiting for the time I will really be ready for this whole thing. Thanx once again - God bless you.
